You and your role

It’s a fallacy that if you’re playing a role then it’s not you.

You are playing a role in every social interaction. Typically, it’s a role dictated by real or perceived expectations of others. Ideally, it’s a role scripted by you to serve your needs.

The question is not: Is it me or is it a role?

The question is: Does the role I am playing give me the power to express myself?

Clothes make men. And so do roles. You should confuse yourself with your role no more than you should confuse yourself with your clothes.

What role do you want to play?

 

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5 Responses to “You and your role”

  1. makeoutland Says:

    I have a theory about this! I call it the cocentric circles theory. Basically every “role” you play is a circle on a plane. If these circles do not overlap at all, then that means the roles you play are fake. But if there are some areas of overlap, then that means to me that you are maintaining something individual about your personality in them.

  2. adrian drummond Says:

    Good to see you writing again.

    I think that sometimes we play some of our roles more convincingly than others. Surely it’s this ability to make the role look convincing that ultimately gives the power?

  3. Chad Says:

    When you make changes in your behavior, a lot of people can be resistant at first. They’ll push back on your new role to see if they can continue to interact with you in the way they’ve become accustomed, since that’s the easiest and most comfortable thing to do.

    But people also have short memories (which makes sense for a species where status hierarchies are important but can change quickly), and if you take a on a new role it’s surprising how quickly people will adapt to it.

    Good to see you posting again.

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  5. anon Says:

    “I have a theory about this! I call it the cocentric circles theory. Basically every “role” you play is a circle on a plane. ”

    See subsequent post defining “nerd”. 🙂

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